Introduction
You know this feeling.
You wake up already braced. Your chest tightens for no clear reason. You cannot quite relax even when everything around you is calm. Maybe you startle easily. Your mind races at night. You feel fine one moment and overwhelmed the next.
Or maybe it is bigger. Panic that arrives without warning. A heaviness that makes it hard to move. The sense that your body is constantly preparing for something that never comes.
If this sounds familiar, you are not imagining it. And you are not broken.
Your Nervous System Has Its Own Logic
What you are experiencing has a logic to it. Your nervous system is doing what it was designed to do. It is responding to signals, trying to keep you safe. The problem is that sometimes this protective system gets stuck. It responds to the present as if it were the past. It does not know that the danger has passed.
For a long time, scientists understood the autonomic nervous system as having two modes: sympathetic (fight or flight) and parasympathetic (rest and digest). But this model is incomplete. It does not explain what happens when your nervous system responds to overwhelming threat by shutting down rather than fighting or fleeing.
More recent research, particularly Stephen Porges' polyvagal theory, reveals that there are actually three main states your nervous system moves through:
Calm and Connected
You are alert but not stressed. Present in your body. Able to engage with the world. This is sometimes called the window of tolerance.
Activated
Your sympathetic system has taken over. This is anxiety, panic, hypervigilance, racing thoughts, tension, irritability. Your body is preparing for danger, whether or not actual danger is present.
Shutdown
The dorsal vagal system has taken over. This is numbness, heaviness, disconnection, exhaustion, hopelessness. Your body has stopped fighting and collapsed into protective stillness.
Most people move between these states throughout the day without noticing. The problem comes when the system gets stuck.
"None of this is a character flaw. It is not weakness. It is not a lack of discipline. Your nervous system is doing what it was designed to do. It is trying to protect you. The problem is that the protection has become the problem."
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